CUTE – SO WHY’S HE SINGLE?

It was a question people often asked me throughout my decade on the NYC dating scene, and it always made me want to strangle them. So I stored the “single” question in the back of my head and tried to understand who Gregor is as a person, not just a profile.

Originally from San Jose, California, he’s called Hell’s Kitchen home for almost two years and works in a variety of roles: writer, author, actor, producer, companion. So, you’d think that, in a city of 8.5 million people, he’d be able to find his partner in crime, the Robin to his Batman, the cheese to his slice of pizza.

G: Most of my life has been spent in short-term romantic relationships, in part because I’m a workaholic and it’s what I love. But in the last few months, I’ve felt a real desire to have someone in my life.

M: So how do you meet women?

G: Out of Tinder, Clover, Bumble and Happn – the sites I’ve used – I’ve had the most luck with Bumble. This is the one where the woman makes the first move. There’s something about meeting a woman who is open to taking control and/or meeting halfway.

M: Do you feel you’re too complex and large-hearted to meet your lifetime match?

G: I’m a writer and an artist by nature, so it’s impossible for my brain to not overthink things. And I’m not conventional, so often this poses some challenges in thinking I can ever meet anyone who truly “gets me.”

M: Describe what you mean by a “romantic friendship.”

Most of the time when sex happens early it kills any chance of long term.

G: I think being friends first is productive, but often it’s impossible to be friends with someone you’re attracted to, so the situation where you both admit there’s an attraction and you simply try as hard as you can for as long as you can to abstain from copulation feels like the right scenario to me. Mostly when sex happens early it kills any chance of long term. If it’s extraordinarily mind-blowing sex, OK, maybe it can last a little longer.

M: What qualities are you looking for?

G: Physically, I’m most attracted to quirky, imperfect beauty. They have to be sexy and have a sexy personality, and fairly immediately show that they have a sense of humor, are kind, and – very important – they are intellectually, artistically, and sexually adventurous.

M: What can you offer your match?

G: My passion – some of my South American friends say I have the heart of a Latino – my love of art; my love of travel; of learning; of bettering myself; my sense of adventure; my spontaneity; my love of eating fresh, healthy food; of exercising and being active; my love of sex and trying new, fun things in the bedroom; my general lust for life.

Sadly, my matchmaking attempts drowned in the Hudson when I virtually introduced Gregor and free-spirited, unicorn-loving Gloria from the September interview. However, I still believe there’s a lid for every pot. Bring on the next candidate! Any takers?